I want you to stop everything you are doing and thinking for the moment and do me a favour.
Yes, I know you are too tired to do anyone favours, but this is the first day of the rest of your life, so you will in fact be doing yourself a favour rather than me.
This is what I want you to do:
Start a list of all the good things that you can find in you and in your situation. And no, I will not take no for an answer.
I will start the list for you:
- You have a lovely daughter
- You are a loving, caring mother.
- You want to protect your child
You can spend a lot of time with your daughter
You know that you are not doing so many things wrong - you just got used to hearing it, but in your heart of hearts you know you are a good person.
You know that you are a good person, no matter what other people say about you.
You discovered me on the Internet when you needed to hear these things.
So - there is a list already. Now I want you to add at least 100 (yes, one hundred) good points about yourself and your situation to this list. Carry it with you, and whenever you feel down about yourself or your daughter, find something that you really believe to add to the list.
How will this help your daughter? When you feel better about yourself, your daughter will notice this. She will want to know what is different about you. Then you can ask her to start making her own list as part of your home schooling.
I would not be surprised if the bullying reduces the longer your list grows. People tend to bully others who do not believe in themselves. I can tell you to believe in yourself, but that is not easy for you, and that belief must come from inside of you, not from someone who tells you what to believe. As your list grows, you will discover many things about yourself and your situation that you can be grateful for, and that will result in you believing in yourself.
As this belief in yourself grows, you will discover that the bullies back off because they can no longer get through to you. The same will happen with your daughter. And this will result in opportunities for both of you to learn and grow.
Your husband will also notice this and fall in love with you again. But all this will only happen if you trust me and carry this list with you and add at least one item every day.