The loss of a loved one and grieving can cause mild depression. Using a diary can help you recover quicker.
I live on my own and have many lovely and caring friends, but even so I often find myself feeling lonely and tearful.
I have problems sleeping and often lie awake thinking very dark and scary thoughts.
Sports have always helped me to cope, but I am struggling with recent injuries that are taking long to heal.
I have also lost my job on two occasions and because things are so quiet at work at the moment, I am worried that it will happen again.
Sometimes people get stuck in grief. If you are willing to accept help moving on, there is a lovely life waiting for you.
My mom passed away nine years ago when I was ten years old. I feel I have dealt with it, but I don’t think my dad has.
He has quite a stressful job, and comes home shouting at me and my sister for the tiniest things. This has been getting worse over the past year or so. I would not say he is abusive – I can see that when he raises his voice something stops him and he actually feels embarrassed without us saying anything.
He has not dated since my mom passed away, and I think he feels the loss even more when he does not have a partner to talk things through with. His stress is affecting everyone in the house.
I am also worried about his physical health since he has started drinking quite a lot. I wouldn’t say he is an alcoholic, but I am worried that it will get worse.
I want to go to university soon, but I can see that he wouldn’t cope without me, and I don’t want my little sister to take over from me and spend her life caring for him.
How do I get my dad to agree to family counselling? I feel that would have a better chance than me asking him to go for personal counselling – he has his pride
When a person dies we go through a stage of grieving. What is that grief, and what are we sad about?
Step 1: Breathe deeply and relax. Count your blessings.
Step 2: Do not take it personally, but take it very personally.
Step 3: Celebrate the next cycle of your life
I can hear you saying "There are bills to be paid. There is an ego that needs massaging. How will I cope until I can find another job during a time of recession? And she says I should relax and celebrate?"
Yes, I am serious about my advice, which comes from first-hand experience.