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Sunday, 06 November 2016 09:41

How Do I Manage the Change of Season?

 

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Question:

I’m hoping you’ll be able to help me. Or maybe it would help that I’m writing this down and telling it to someone, I don’t know. I’m in my early 20’s, female and live in the UK.

I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. About four or five years ago, it was quite debilitating and I found it difficult to concentrate on schoolwork and ended up not attending school very much at all as getting out of bed was such a struggle for me.

Over the last few years though, I’ve found it much more manageable.

However, as we’re entering October, I’m suffering much more than I’ve ever done.
I’m constantly tired and find it too much to concentrate on tasks at work (I work full time as an administration assistant), therefore I fall behind with deadlines.

My sleep pattern is erratic, alternating between not being able to wake up and not being able to get to sleep.

I’m plagued with feelings of despair, as if the world is going to end and have regular panic attacks.  I feel tearful or cry at some point every day. I even have a nasty cold sore for the first time in about 7 years.

Aside from my struggling with SAD, I recently came out of a four-year relationship. While the break-up wasn’t acrimonious, we were living together and my ex-boyfriend has now moved out.
I’m trying to adjust to life as a single girl for the first time in four years, but I’m struggling with the fact that I now live alone.

Not only is it lonely and makes me feel somewhat overwhelmed by the thought that it’s just me taking care of myself for once, my income is now, of course, considerably less than before.  I can still get by with paying bills and the like, but I’m pinching every penny and it’s leading me to feel worthless and even more depressed.

Now work is also very stressful. Staffing is short and the workload is high and I feel as if I’m running on autopilot.

I’m becoming increasingly concerned that I’m going to burnout or break down, as my daily routine is to get up alone in my flat, head off to work in the ever increasingly darker mornings, work all day in a stressful environment – feeling tired and sluggish, go home to an empty flat, barely be bothered to cook for myself as all I’m craving is junk food that I can’t afford and head to bed early to cry myself to sleep.

I just want some advice as to whether this is just a bad case of SAD or something worse. And what can I do to help minimise my stress?

I just feel trapped and lost.

Thanks for your time.

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Sunday, 24 January 2016 11:11

More Stress Than I Can Manage - Podcast

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Sunday, 29 November 2015 12:02

More Stress Than I Can Manage

 

Question:

 

 

Over the last four weeks I have had some major things to deal with.  My god-daughter was born and had to go straight into NICU (neo-natal intensive care unit).  Then my sister’s baby was born and also had to go straight into NICU. I got a severe allergic reaction – I still don’t know the cause.  Just after that I discovered that my mom has got skin cancer.  And yesterday I had another severe allergic reaction and now I need to have tests done.

 

I have never coped well with stress, and this is just too much for me.   As a result my home looks like a disaster area.  My grocery shopping is behind.  I have missed days at work, and I really care about my job.  I have not exercised in weeks – and I love my exercise.  I have started to snap at people for the simplest reasons.

 

What can I do to reduce my stress, or just to relax?

 

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Don't stress about what has not happened yet because if you do, you create your nightmare.

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Monday, 26 October 2015 20:37

How Do I Deal With A Stressful Lawsuit?

 

Question:

 

There is a potential lawsuit against me. 

 

While I am waiting for the decision, I am unable to sleep and eat properly, and I just want to stay in bed most of the time. 

 

What can I do to feel better?

 

 

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We cannot change the choices our parents make.  We can only love them for what they teach us.

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Saturday, 27 June 2015 13:50

Can Gossip Destroy Your Life?

 

Question:

I have been diagnosed with social phobia and anxiety by a psychologist who was not able to help me overcome these issues.  However, I have decided not to let that put me off. 

There was an incident at work with a female colleague who had bullied me for quite a while.  One day she just went too far and I threatened to beat her up.  Of course I will never lift my hand to a woman, and did not mean it.  Unfortunately the woman is related to the manager, who took her side and I lost my job. 

I have since had chance meetings with some ex-colleagues who looked at me in a funny way, as if they want to laugh at me but not to my face.  At first I thought it was my imagination, but then it happened again and again.  This made me believe that they are gossiping about me whenever they can.

 

I am wondering whether it is possible for gossip to destroy a person’s life.  Do you think I should be concerned about what these people say about me behind my back?  I know that I live in a large city and I no longer work for this company, but it still bothers me that these people are talking about me and I don’t have an opportunity to defend myself.

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Sunday, 21 June 2015 11:23

How Do I Break Away From My Parents?

Question:

I have recently turned 20 and moved out of my parents’ home because I could not stand staying there any longer.

My parents are always fighting about money, but I can see how they cause their own money troubles.  My dad has been unemployed for a long time and he smokes weed to relieve his stress.  He can come up with the craziest things, and then gets frustrated and embarrassed, which makes it very difficult to speak to him. 

My mom has a job that she hates, and she drinks two bottles of wine every night to deal with her stress.  I work as a waiter and I have seen people sharing a bottle of wine and having a good time.  I can see my mother does not have a good time – she drinks because she does not want to face her problems.  When I try to talk to her, she says it is her money and she will do as she pleases.

My sisters dose themselves with prescription drugs and drink and smoke weed.  I think they have also already tried crystal meth.  I have tried to talk to them but they say if our parents can do it, why can’t they?

I don’t want you to think I am judging them.  I have experimented with drugs and weed, but one day I had an experience where I felt God was reaching out to me and I just knew this was not what I wanted in my life.  Now I will only take medication if the doctor prescribed it and there is no other way.

Even though I no longer live at home, I am really stressed about my family.  Despite everything I love them and I know I can’t change them, but I want the best for them.

Can you help me?

Published in Love and Relationships
Saturday, 21 March 2015 17:21

I Only Have Two Hands! - Podcast

When you feel overwhelmed, do only what will keep you out of trouble.

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