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Saturday, 17 October 2015 13:15

My Head Is Going to Explode

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My father passed away just over a year ago and I am struggling to accept this.  My sister and I had to place our mother in care because of my mother’s medical problems. 

I live on my own and have many lovely and caring friends, but even so I often find myself feeling lonely and tearful.

 

I have problems sleeping and often lie awake thinking very dark and scary thoughts.

 

Sports have always helped me to cope, but I am struggling with recent injuries that are taking long to heal.

 

I have also lost my job on two occasions and because things are so quiet at work at the moment, I am worried that it will happen again.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sunday, 04 October 2015 12:30

I Would Rather Kill Myself Than Ask For Help

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I am old enough to have grandchildren and crying out for help, but nobody is listening.

My mother had a learning disability and was raped by my father, and as a result I was born.  My mother wanted nothing to do with me, and I was put in the care of my paternal grandmother.  She was a violent woman, addicted to alcohol and drugs.  She committed suicide when I was a teenager and made sure that I had to watch her doing it.

 I married my husband when I was 19 and had two lovely daughters and a very ill disabled son.  I took care of my son until he died at the age of six, but my husband would not have anything to do with my son.  My husband went off with another woman and that really hurt me.

 At the time my eldest daughter had just completed school, and she is a bright child.  There was no money for her to study after my husband had left, and she could not go and study.  She has only spoken to me in the most aggressive way you can imagine for the past twelve years, and goes out of her way to avoid me.

 I was very alone after losing my husband, son and daughter one after the other, and worked very hard to keep myself and my second daughter alive.

 Then I met a lovely man on a Christian dating website.  He lived in another country, but we got on so well that he finally asked me to come and live with him.  He paid for everything for me and my daughter to relocate.  At first we were happy, but then his business ran into trouble and he became abusive.  He blamed me for losing his business, even though I probably worked harder than him to keep it running.

 He told me last week to move out and find another job.  My daughter said she cannot help me and I have to find a job.  I have no qualifications and don’t want to look into anyone’s eyes – I would rather kill myself.

 I have no other family and I need some hope for the future.

Sunday, 27 September 2015 14:01

Has My Surgery Affected My Judgment?

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My wife left me a while ago for someone else and our divorce will be finalized soon.  I believed I had moved on, and have since met a lovely lady with whom I was very happy.

 

I have recently had hip surgery which temporarily put an end to my very active sports while I was on crutches.

 

After the surgery I broke up with my girlfriend for no reason, and tried to get my wife back (even though I knew she was already involved with another man).

 

Needless to say, I have since come to my senses and have my lovely girlfriend back with me.  Of course the divorce is going through, so that my wife and I can both move on.  I am also fully mobile again.

 

I am trying to understand why I caused such upheaval in my life with my actions.  Did the surgery cause some state of depression that made me lose my judgment?

 

 

Saturday, 08 August 2015 15:49

How Do I Gain Self-Confidence?

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I am a professional in my mid-thirties. 

 

I finally managed to get a job in my professional field but I am struggling to keep up. 

My seniors tell me I should have more self-confidence, but I don’t know how to get more confidence.  I have always been like this, not just because of this job. 

 

I am concerned that I will not make it in this field. 

 

How do I change?

 

 

Sunday, 19 July 2015 08:46

I Have Too Much On My Plate

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I am getting married in two months, and that is about the only thing that I am not stressing about at the moment.

I have a dreadful job where I am getting bullied to the point where I have already had to take sick leave.  I am facing redundancy – I am not sure when, but I have already heard on the grapevine that I am on the list.  If I hang in there I will get a redundancy package but then I will be unemployed at the time when I need money for the wedding.  If I sue the company for bullying, I will probably win the case but the company won’t pay damages – they have done the same with two other people in the last two years.

My best friend is not supportive at all, and at the moment blames me for stuff in her life that has nothing to do with me.  This is adding to my stress to the point where I just want to walk away from our friendship.

Saturday, 27 June 2015 13:50

Can Gossip Destroy Your Life?

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I have been diagnosed with social phobia and anxiety by a psychologist who was not able to help me overcome these issues.  However, I have decided not to let that put me off. 

There was an incident at work with a female colleague who had bullied me for quite a while.  One day she just went too far and I threatened to beat her up.  Of course I will never lift my hand to a woman, and did not mean it.  Unfortunately the woman is related to the manager, who took her side and I lost my job. 

I have since had chance meetings with some ex-colleagues who looked at me in a funny way, as if they want to laugh at me but not to my face.  At first I thought it was my imagination, but then it happened again and again.  This made me believe that they are gossiping about me whenever they can.

 

I am wondering whether it is possible for gossip to destroy a person’s life.  Do you think I should be concerned about what these people say about me behind my back?  I know that I live in a large city and I no longer work for this company, but it still bothers me that these people are talking about me and I don’t have an opportunity to defend myself.

Thursday, 02 January 2014 07:26

How Can Meditation Help Me Reach God?

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I have recently discovered meditation and have been meditating for twenty minutes daily for the past two months.  I have already experienced some wonderful benefits, for example an increase in my confidence and realizing that I was going to do something wrong before I did it.

I have tried very hard to reach the deep meditative stage where I can directly connect with God and get answers to my questions.  At the moment I am going through a lot of changes in terms of my career, and I am really worried about making wrong decisions.  I feel that no matter how hard I try to connect to God to get help with these decisions, He is just not there.

What is the process for connecting to God?  I am worried that I have selected the wrong career and want God's opinion before it is too late.

Thursday, 02 January 2014 06:27

What Did I Get Myself Into?

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After two years of effort I managed to get into a graduate program at one of the best universities in the country.  For the first few weeks I had loads of energy and loved every minute of it.

However, I then got a stack of work at once, and since then I have been behind and this has left me exhausted and frustrated.

I know it is possible for me to catch up, but somehow my motivation is gone.  I either do the minimum I can get away with, or sometimes I don't even do that.  I knew from the beginning there would be lots of work and I looked forward to it, but I had no idea that this was going to happen,

I know I must just get through every day, but how do I get the joy back again?

Wednesday, 01 January 2014 07:55

How Do I Get To Thrive In Life?

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I am 19 and have so much that I want to achieve.

I am studying at the moment and eventually want to open a Wellness Centre.

However, I am struggling with being organized and committed to my goal, and taking care of my own health.

What can I do to get a move on?

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