Millions of people all over the globe are house-bound and only allowed to go out for essential trips. Of course, I could write a book about the reasons for this, and whether the lockdown is justified or not. However, it is what is.
The more important question is what to do about it.
Is it possible to create gratitude rather than just feel it momentarily? Yes, it is. Let me explain.
The Universe is in complete balance - from the largest global pandemic to the smallest sub-atomic particle. That is how everything was created. We tend to forget about this incredibly beautiful balance when we get stuck in emotions.
Is there something that you really, really want, but you are hesitant to get it for yourself because it is expensive/the time is not right/you don’t deserve it etc.?
And sometimes you don’t understand the motivation behind your hesitation, or – even worse – you try and manipulate the Universe into giving you what you want, because someone told you that if you wish hard enough, your wishes will come true.
I can recall two instances where I was in such a position.
The first one was when my old wrist watch finally gave in. I was able to use a mobile phone instead to tell the time, but I really wanted a beautiful new watch – and because I was alone and lonely, I asked the Universe to send to me a beautiful man who will buy me the perfect wrist watch.
Nothing happened. I did not meet the man, and I still did not have a wrist watch.
I then went on holiday to the Principality of Lichtenstein, and saw the perfect watch – gold, the right size, the right shape, the most beautiful design – and I bought it for myself. I am still wearing the watch, and it still bring me joy.
Meanwhile the man finally arrived, and did not notice my watch. For my birthday he bought me a watch – a silver monstrosity with pink rhinestones. The relationship did not last, and not even the charity shop wanted the silver watch – it was that ugly. No, he did not try to make fun of me. He just had really bad taste and did not know my taste at all or even bother to find out.
To this day I am glad that when I had the opportunity, I bought myself the beautiful wrist watch rather than try to interfere with the plan that the Universe had with me.
The other instance was my visit to Venice.
For years, I wanted to visit Venice. I thought it would be wonderful if I could go there with a good friend or – if you can believe the publicity – a lover. I have travelled extensively in Europe – mostly on my own – but for some reason I had this mental block about travelling to Venice alone.
When I realised that my time living in Europe was up, I decided to bite the bullet and go to Venice for a short break. My intention was to stay in a hotel in Marghera, a village nearby, and from there take a bus to Venice. I would then spend the rest of the time doing other touristy things around Venice, but at least I can place a tick mark next to Venice on my to-do list.
Buy – was I wrong! I arrived in Marghera, took the bus to Venice, and explored the city. I did the same the next day – and the next, and the next – and if I can go back today I will. The whole place just took my breath away. I spent hours on the water buses. I walked through every alley and shared an over-priced gondola with an American family. I browsed in the shops. I just took in the incredible beauty and tranquillity of the place, day after day, and enjoyed the gelato.
Yes, it was summer and the place was teeming with tourists, but even so, I experienced a tranquillity that remains with me to this day. The only experience that impacted on my tranquillity was my visit to the beautiful San Marco cathedral. It is a stunning place – much more beautiful than the photographs suggest. I did not mind paying an entrance fee, because such places need to be maintained, and I understand that building maintenance is expensive. What I did mind was having to spend money on a dull brown, papery, plastic piece of simulated cloth that I was expected to use to cover my shoulders before I could enter the cathedral. To this day I am convinced that God firstly created my shoulders – and did a good job even if I may say so myself – and secondly God would not have been offended by my short sleeves – not even bare shoulders - and that God also dislikes that piece of … At least I can count my blessings, because another tourist was required to buy two pieces – one to cover his bare arms, and another one to cover his legs, because apparently the God of that cathedral also has issues with bare male legs.
Both these incidents taught me that if a thought resonates with you, then you need to trust and do what you need to do so that you can have the experience. In both instances they were not just short-lived experiences – they were moments that are with me to this day, and I felt a depth and a sense of satisfaction in those moments that gave me a glimpse of eternity.
I have since them recognised the same urge when I think of New Zealand and Peru, and I will go there – on my own or with other people – it does not matter. I don’t have the money yet, but I know by now that as the thought materialises, the funding comes with the reality.
These callings do not necessarily relate to travel or to leaving your country. I felt the same when I first had the thought of designing on-line courses (I already have two, and working on a third one and have a list of ideas that are germinating). Right now I feel the same about my future vision of having a house overlooking the ocean – and it will happen, soon.
What do you need to do right now to make your dreams reality? Go ahead – do it …
I often wonder what it is that makes a relationship a winner … and I am afraid I cannot give you a glib answer, because I don’t think that there is one single answer.
I believe that a relationship is a contract between two souls that they enter into before they are born. It does not matter whether they are married or not – a marriage contract is part of this dimension, whereas a relationship is the result of a contract that was concluded without signatures in another dimension.
I recently had the opportunity to observe various couples, and they confirmed for me that a relationship is a disguise for another agenda.
The first couple claimed to be good friends. The lady is a good friend of the family, and the man is recently widowed. I had only met her once, and before the man arrived with his family, she went out of her way to explain to me that she was a good friend of his deceased wife, and she helps the family where she can. Why was it important for her to tell me this?
Then the man arrived. I did not want to be in the way, so I moved to the other side of the swimming pool from where I observed them.
The body language of the two together told me that not only were they not “just friends”, but that the feeling was mutual. His adult children were also there, and even though it is less than a year since their mother passed away, they were friendly and receptive. The man is prominent in his profession, and I will watch the newspapers for the wedding announcement …
I then encountered a married couple with a small son. It was obvious that they both adored the child. It was also obvious that there was something else going on there. She is a black woman from an exotic island in the Antipodes, and she is very beautiful. When I looked at her, I wanted to cry because of the sadness around her. She was not only terribly homesick – she clearly was at a loss.
Her older husband is a mixed-race South African who spent most of his time outside of the country. His dream was to “retire” by changing one very active career for another very active career, and he approaches everything he does with zest and enthusiasm – and alone.
It did not take him long to spill his guts to me – probably because when I met him, I made a comment that resonated with him. It turned out that she was disillusioned with her “African dream”, and he was disillusioned with her disillusionment. He was also fully aware that he misjudged when he thought he had captured her heart – while she had left her heart somewhere else and she was pining.
I wanted to hug them both and tell them everything will be OK, but I am not so sure of that. They have a beautiful child to raise together, and they will do it, but I cannot imagine that either of them will be happy as long as they live under the same roof.
In this instance the contract between them has nothing to do with living happily ever after. It has everything to do with integrity and dealing with change and challenges – much more than it has to do with love. And the challenges have nothing to do with their mixed-race marriage. In this country that is no longer an issue.
The third couple I observed also have a mixed race marriage. He is Italian and probably immigrated to South Africa when he was a small child. She is what is known in South Africa as “coloured” – in other words, with white and black ancestors. My impression was that they fell in love when they were both mature (and probably after failed previous marriages) and they are so happy that I felt like crying with joy when I saw them together. They both radiate goodness. Uproot them and put them in any other country, and they will settle down with zest and win over all the locals with their enthusiasm for life. They will keep their sadness about being childless to themselves and discus that in the darkness of the night, when they are snuggled in their own cocoon against the world.
Every single relationship has an agenda. It is very seldom that the agenda has to do with superficial things like race, age or gender. During the relationship, the two partners rub against each other – like smooth river stones until they fit together perfectly, or like jagged rocks until either they are smoother together, or until the river of life lets one of them flow away while the other remains stuck. The agenda has to do with more important things such as integrity, respect and self-respect, adapting to change, managing challenges together, growing separately and together, and finding that place where your heart opens up because of the place where you are and the person who is with you.
I have seen those as well – like the two middle-aged men who walked hand in hand, looking radiant, the long-married couple who cannot keep their eyes and hands off each other, and the mature couple preparing for a second marriage when they both believed that they had had their one chance of happiness when their spouses died. Believe me, they have their own challenges, both as individuals and as couples.
Love is Love.
Yes, I am mixing metaphors, but the reason for that will become clear.
If I subtly hint that the administration of a large country is chaotic, would you know who I am referring to? If I even more subtly hint that the reason for this public impression is the public utterances of the president of the country, and that the actions of his staff don’t help to change the impression, would you know what I am talking about? This president lives on a diet of social media poison and misinformation coming from him or being exacerbated by him.
That is as far as I can go, if I don’t want to be forced to resign my job – but then I am not a diplomat from a country with whom the president and his country has a “special” relationship. This poor diplomat made the mistake of stating the bleeding obvious and putting it in writing.
When the furore over this resignation of the diplomat hit the news, the comment was made that the diplomat was ‘caught in public saying something that is widely believed’. His ‘punishment’ was that he was forced to resign, because the political situation became intolerable for him.
Sounds unfair, but what can we do?
But so far it is a situation on the international news, and it doesn’t really affect any of us. Or does it?
What do you do when things really go off the rails, and you are part of the situation? You may be part of the situation because you live in the country, or because the city where you live is under/on fire, or even because you are in a work situation where what happens is against your values and to the detriment of everyone involved. Do you keep quiet? Do you listen to the news and say to yourself ‘the world is going mad’ and turn your attention to something else? Do you say something to a friend and shake your head and move on? Do you voice your opinions out loud and try to change the situation?
This is not a recent moral dilemma, but rather one that is as old as humanity. I am not a Christian and I am sure that different scriptures address this issue, but I can only quote from Leviticus 5:1 because I recently became aware of this text: "'If anyone sins because they do not speak up when they hear a public charge to testify regarding something they have seen or learned about, they will be held responsible.”
This indicates a moral obligation to speak up, and to bear the consequences, no matter what.
It is interesting how something comes into your awareness, and then the test follows.
I once found myself in a work situation where incompetence, dishonesty and a general lack of regard for the client was allowed once, then twice, and then quickly became the norm. This was because of a total lack of leadership, or rather leadership that took the entire team to the abyss.
I was part of this team, and I realised within my first month that dishonesty and extremely damaging work practices were the norm. What do you do when you are new in the situation? I did what I normally do, which is never to turn the other cheek, but to rather determine whether what I discovered was my misinformed view (which could change because of the facts I discover) or an informed view which would be borne out by the facts.
In this instance the facts were plenty – and all the facts indicated that the emperor was stark naked in terms of integrity and competence, and he had his sycophantic followers who convinced him that his invisible cloak was beautiful. The emperor also enjoyed raving whenever his ignorance and incompetence were challenged, in the belief that pure anger and hatred would gloss over the massive cracks that he not only created himself, but also condoned in others. This habit quickly filtered down to those of his followers who had not yet tried to use tantrums as a cover for incompetence and ignorance, and they discovered that not only did the tantrums work, but the emperor supported them, as images of himself.
This is the recipe for a toxic work situation.
What to do when you are in this situation? This is where I feel empathy for the diplomat who was forced to resign because he stated the bleeding obvious, which not only his colleagues, but the entire world knew.
I worked from my sphere to tactfully expose the dishonesty, by providing solid proof to the emperor. To my absolute astonishment, I was told to “do introspection” because I was focusing on dishonesty towards a client, where regular “white lies” do the job. I started collecting the evidence of dishonesty.
I believe that it is only fair to criticize the skills of others when I am in a position to give them the skills. So I provided the tools to counter the incompetence, en ensured that the tools were accessible. Not only was the reception very cold, but the emperor told me in so many words that nothing I could offer would ever be welcome – I presume because anything I offered exposed his nakedness and his raving madness.
Since it was clear to me that the client was not only suffering losses, but was also losing confidence in the emperor in his team, I decided to escalate the issues by stating the bleeding obvious to a higher level of management, first in person, and then in writing. What happened? Nothing. Why? Because for those who could step in and set down the rules that would create a healthy workplace, collecting the fees every month was far more important.
Meanwhile the emperor was making regular noises about “straight talk” – which meant “do as you are told, without questioning” and “collaboration” – which meant “I will tell you from my limited experience and what I grabbed from a book somewhere what standard I expect you to set without arguing – and yes, the standard is low, but remember, so is my intelligence and level of competence, so shut up and obey.”
My cognitive dissonance, where the difference between what I believed was right and what was happening around me, was growing every day. Was it me? Was I the one with the warped view of the world?
When colleagues approached me to test their observations, which were identical to mine, I realised I was not wrong. When the client became quite verbal about their dissatisfaction and started talking about prematurely terminating the contract, I realised my observations were real.
And nothing was done to change anything.
I then discovered that the emperor had been escorted out of a previous work situation for the exact reasons I observed, and he was marched straight to this unsuspecting client, who was now paying the price for accepting him.
What could I do? Resign and walk away. I would have preferred to stay and root out the corruption, but one person can only be effective up to a point.
To my surprise, once I handed in my resignation, people from various corners (including the client who was losing on all fronts, and my employer who finally realised that I was not crying wolf) approached me - not to stay, but for me to provide as much evidence as possible of the rot that I had observed. They all realised that I would never thrive in a situation that will take a very heavy hand to change, and nobody tried to stop me. I handed it all over and walked away - after observing the emperor being fast asleep in a client meeting, while an irate client explained how the emperor and his team had failed. And nobody took any action - they were too busy admiring the emperor’s invisible clothes.
I could have taken a strong case to the labour court, but as tarot teaches us, justice (where each one of us has to account for our deeds at the end of our lives) is far more important than judgment (where I could win a huge victory, but at the expense of my own wellbeing).
Rumour has it that the emperor will be marched off the premises again soon, this time in disgrace with no option of a new victim who will unknowingly accept him and the damage he does. I am happily working in a new environment where everything I can contribute is accepted with open arms.
There is hope for the diplomat as well – he acted and he will get his reward. On a cosmic scale, he played his role by speaking up. And he is not the only one. The tide of voices against the corruption is rising world-wide.
This is how we make the world a better place. We speak up and voice our concerns, and we take action, even if it is on a small scale, because if we don’t say or do anything, we condone our dark sides. Are you part of the tide of integrity and well-being?
Karma is a bitch – if you approach her from the wrong angle.
How do you react to change? Or how do you respond to change?
This is not just word play.
Reacting to change is a knee-jerk defense where your favorite alibi kicks in, and taking the wrong action or an inappropriate action. More about these alibis below.
Responding to change, on the other hand, means understanding that change is happening, assessing the change, and then thinking about it before acting to make the best of the change.
We all want to spread joy in the world, right?
And we all are on social media where this is as easy as pressing a button, right? Wrong. So far I know seven people who are not on Facebook. How in the world do they keep up with family gossip and world politics?
Jokes aside, I often see “spiritual” posts on social media that makes it clear the creator or sender is not familiar with spiritual laws, and they don’t think before they spread the words.
Here is an innocent-looking meme I found on a social media group:
“To protect your energy: It’s okay to cancel a commitment. It’s okay to not answer a call. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to want to be alone. It’s okay to take a day off. It’s okay to do nothing. It’s okay to speak up. It’s okay to let go.”
The first three statements don’t protect your energy. On the contrary. They compromise the universal law of “Say what you do and do what you say”, and they create an energy blockage, for which you then need to face the consequences. That is not okay in any shape or form.
When you have made a commitment, then only the direst circumstances must be a reason for not honoring that commitment. I saw a video the other day of a young black American who found getting a job quite a challenge because of unemployment and racism. He finally landed a job in a town twenty miles away and was quite excited about it. It was a typical first job with a furniture removal company which required carrying and lifting all sorts of items with care for hours on end. He did not mind, because it was his job and he had a job.
The night before he got everything ready, and set out his clothes. He needed to run an errand with the car he was going to get to work, and discovered the car had broken down. He called around to find a friend who could give him a lift, with no luck. And there was no public transport.
What did he do? In his mind there was only one thing to do – start walking. That is what he did around midnight – because he had a job and a commitment. At dawn he was stopped by a police officer on patrol, because he was a black man and out of place. He told the officer what had happened and why he was in the area.
The officer took him to a diner and bought him breakfast. Because of bureaucratic restrictions he could not take the young man all the way to work.
The young man hit the road again. Another officer – who had heard about this from the first officer – found the young man a couple of miles further on and was able to drop him off at work – much earlier than he was meant to be there.
Imagine being black in an area where racism is rife, and arriving at your place of work in the back of a police car! However, the story did not stop here.
To avoid any issues, the police officer contacted the owner of the business to explain why his new employee arrived for work in a police car.
The young man put in a full day’s work of hard labor and sweat, because he had a job and he gave his word. He had no idea how he was going to get home, but that did not interfere with his work performance.
The owner went out to meet the young man at the end of his shift. He not only expressed his gratitude to the young man for making such an effort to get to work – he also gave the young man a car that he drove home with that night.
What can I say? When you say what you do and then do what you say, the Universe delivers on the bargain. You might not get a car for free, but reneging on your commitment is not an option – ever.
Yes. It was OK not to answer a call before the age of mobile phones. Nowadays you don’t ignore a call. If you don’t want to answer a call, then switch off your phone and ensure you have voicemail on. Not answering a call while you hang the washing or have a bath is OK, but then you phone back at the first opportunity. Simply choosing to not answer calls is a violation of the universal law. If you really don’t want to take a call from a person, you have the option to block that person on your phone. However, even when you do so, ask yourself why, until you understand what emotions the caller evokes and why you don’t want to deal with the person.
Yes, it’s OK to change your mind, but ensure that you first say what you do, and then do what you say. If you say one thing and then do another thing without warning, the message to the world is simple: You are unreliable. Do it often enough, and the message will come back to you clearly from your interactions with family, friends and work colleagues.
There is another meme which people send round without thinking:
“Religion is for people who are afraid of hell. Spirituality is for people who have been through hell.”
The implication is clearly that spirituality is superior to religion, and people who profess to be spiritual have had superior experiences. That is so far from the truth.
I know religious people who are far more spiritual than they would acknowledge, and they are comfortable in their religious practices. They have a different way of thinking, but that does not make them wrong – just as a spiritual lifestyle doesn’t make anybody right.
The more I read and educate myself, the more I discover that the main religions contain the same truths. No, religion is not for me, because I don’t feel I can embrace everything in any one of the religions I have studied. I can embrace everything I have learnt and experienced about spirituality so far, but I have also discovered through spirituality how much truth there is in the main religious texts.
Religion – any religion – and spirituality are simply different facets of the same diamond. Who are you to say that one facet on a diamond is superior to another?
Here is another one:
“How people treat you is all about them and nothing about you.”
Not true. This implies that you are perfect, and people who don’t treat you as perfect are wrong about you.
How people treat you is about the contract which you have with each of these people. Therefore all interactions are about them as well as about you.
If people treat you with disrespect, ask yourself whether you act and talk in such a way that you earn respect all the time. Or are they with their behavior reflecting back to you what you send into the world, namely that your words and actions don’t reflect respect?
If you believe the meme, you absolve yourself from any introspection, and you give yourself permission to act in ways that may be very hurtful to people.
You also ignore the Golden Rule, namely to do unto others what you want to have done unto yourself.
Before you hit the share button next time, ask yourself whether you fully resonate with everything in the meme, and whether the meme complies with universal spiritual law.
So, it’s the fourth Friday in November, and time for the Black Friday sales.
There is a long weekend (because Thanksgiving is on the fourth Thursday of November) where people who normally ignore each other get together and pretend to be happy to see each other. They eat and drink and deny the undercurrents of family rivalry and animosity. They end up with a hangover and a lot of frustration because nothing has changed since the previous Thanksgiving.
So what is the answer? Retail therapy. And the additional justification is that Christmas is only a few weeks away, and this is the ideal opportunity to buy mindless Christmas gifts for a pagan holiday.
This is where the Black Friday Sales come in handy.
Why is it called Black Friday? Apparently the term originated in the city of Philadelphia in the USA in 1952. Police and traffic cops were already used to very dense pedestrian and vehicle traffic on the Friday after Thanksgiving, and someone used the term Black Friday to refer to the traffic. The term stuck and merchants started using it to describe the queues of people in their shops, waiting to be served. The term is now being used country-wide in the USA, but it has also gained momentum in many other countries.
The perception that merchants create with a bombardment of TV advertisements, emails, social media ads and every possible means of rubbing the noses of consumers into details about the items on sale, is that there is scarcity. If you don’t buy – and if you don’t buy in large quantities – you will run short, or you will miss out and the opportunity will never come along again.
The phenomenon is an example of classic conditioning of the crowds who follow and don’t ask any questions apart from “how much?” or “can I have more of what I won’t use or don’t need at a price that underlines scarcity?”.
But is there truly such scarcity?
Is there any scarcity of anything on this earth?
Back to quantum physics and a very strong message.
Energy – the creative and intelligent energy that is everything – consists of waves. Those waves are all around us all the time. The waves have the potential of becoming particles, and the particles are drawn together to form any object we can possibly imagine.
Can you see what is happening here? It is mind-blowing.
Retailers decide what items they want to sell to unsuspecting customers so that they can make a profit. They advertise en masse and relentlessly. The customers get excited about the “bargains” and imagine owning these items. They in fact help the retailers with creating as many items as possible, so that they can then have the short-term satisfaction of buying the items.
They don’t understand the process they use, and how mind-blowing the process can be if it is applied in a different context.
Imagine creating a hundred thousand bottles of a soft drink, so that they can be sold at a Black Friday sale at a “reduced” price. Do you really think the retailers will sell anything at prices where they don’t still make a handsome profit?
At the lowest possible level of creation, the retailers planted the thought in the minds of the customers by saying “connect the dots for us, please”. The willing customers then started thinking of the “bargains” they will get. They willingly turned waves into particles, and grouped the particles together to align with the ideas that were planted by the retailers. Then they confirmed the creation by spending money on what they helped create.
What if those same retailers used the same techniques to say “we envisage providing clothes to an entire village – come and help us do so in exchange for the satisfaction of it”? What if customers say “what a brilliant idea – I will help imagine all sorts of materials and accessories, and work with other people until our creation materialize”?
Can you imagine how we can change the worlds with such thoughts? We can provide water, clothes, food, shelter …
Instead we buy into this illusion of scarcity. The retailers are telling us that we have to hurry to the ocean with our teaspoons, and get as many teaspoons of water as possible within the next 24 hours, because if we don’t, tomorrow morning the ocean will be dry.
And we wake up a week after Black Friday, and we are too stupid to realize that we have bought into someone else’s dream and made their dreams come true at the expense of our own – because we don’t believe that our own dreams can come true that easily. All we need to do is take a moment, create our own dream, and start changing those waves into particles.
I am afraid I am not offering you any Black Friday specials. Yes, I noted that my courses on www.udemy.com and on www.skillshare.com are available at a special Black Friday price. I had nothing to do with that, and the courses will still be available tomorrow and the week and the month after that.
Instead, I am very busy creating workshops and webinars – because I want you to make your dreams come true.
Enjoy your shopping!
Exchanging energy in business? Surely that cannot be right? In business you exchange goods or services for money?
Yes, that is true – you do exchange goods or services for money. But what is money? What are the goods? Where do the services come from?
Everything in this world is energy. And this world is in complete balance. Where it appears that things are not in balance, this is simply because we focus on the one side of the coin, and try to delude ourselves that there is no other side to the coin. Every coin has two sides, whether we like it or not. For every upside, there is a price to pay. For every downside, there is a benefit we need to acknowledge.
This complete balance needs to also be in business transactions.
Spot the imbalance:
None of the above examples refer to a fair exchange of energy, where the giver received as much as they gave in exchange, or where the receiver only received what was due to them. In each instance there was too much energy taken, and not enough energy given.
Take a moment to think how you normally approach such situations.
Yes, there are instances where you know in your gut the item is over-priced, and you will not pay the offered price but rather walk away. There are instances where the owner offers the item at below the initial value, because the owner no longer attaches the initial value to the item – like at end-of-season sales. There are instances where an item or service are offered at a price that is below their true value, because you are willingly being enticed into buying into the illusion so that you can get more at the true value later, and you are OK with it.
Did you know there are not only brain cells in your brain? There are brain cells with an identical function in your heart. When the brain cells in your brain and in your heart are aligned, you feel and know there is a true and fair exchange of energy.
These are the easy examples. Let’s move on to the more intangible ones, which relate to what you value as opposed to what is offered or sold to you.
For example, you value honesty in business and in your personal life. You like to deal with any business which shares these values with you. You then have an unpleasant experience with the business where one of the employees is dishonest and this results in a loss (either a financial loss or a loss of trust) for you. In good faith, you report this to the management of the business, and the response you get is that “you are looking at it in the wrong way”, even though it is as clear as daylight that there was dishonesty and you were at the receiving end. This is clearly an imbalanced exchange of energy.
Another example from the online world is where for example an item is advertised at a price that you perceive as fair. When you try to buy it, the item is “no longer available” but there is a similar item available at a higher price. This is known as click-bait, where the customer is drawn in under false pretenses, and the dealer assumes that the customer needs the item or service badly enough to accept the dishonesty and pay more.
A classic example from the marketing, consulting and entrepreneurial world is where a seller does not have any service to sell yet, but they promote themselves as experts in a field. Only when the unsuspecting customer takes the bait, does the seller create a service that is tailor-made for the customer. This practice of selling rainbows and candy floss to people in need of practical, solid items or information is probably the furthest from the universal law of “say what you do and do what you say”. I have dealt with people who apply this type of selling, and in my experience it always results in what is called a “hard sell” of the type of “come on, you know you want and need it” with a lot of pressure being applied to the buyer, followed by disillusion, a very sour taste in the mouth, and the seller moving on to the next unsuspecting soul, like a parasite that sucks its victim dry before moving on.
What is missing in each one of these transactions is compliance with the universal law of “say what you do, and do what you say”.
If you run your business according to this universal law, you will always find balance in your transactions. Even better, you will always offer balance, and your offers will resonate with the customers you deserve.
If, as a customer, you use your discernment (not judgment) to find businesses who offer a fair exchange of energy, then you will be a satisfied customer. Did you know that satisfied customers tell on average three people about their experiences, but dissatisfied customers spread the news to on average fifteen people?
You are asking about the difference between judgment and discernment – good question.
Judgment is where you decide what is right and what is wrong, based on any cultural or religious beliefs you accepted. Judgment is an uncompromising attitude, where anyone and everyone who differs from you are wrong, and you are right. With judgment there is only one option and that is yours – everything and everyone else are excluded.
Discernment, on the other hand, allows you to use your physical, emotional and spiritual body to detect whether the person or situation resonates with you. As you know already, everything has its own vibration. That includes every object and every person you come into contact with. Where this vibration is on the same level as your physical body, it feels good. Where the vibration is on a higher level than your physical body, chances are that you will have some insight and as a result your physical body will then also vibrate at the higher level.
However, when the vibration you encounter is lower than your physical body, you immediately feel the resistance, because our body vibrations never go lower.
Have you had the experience of feeling an immediate dislike for a person, even a person you don’t know, for no obvious reason? Have you ever walked into a social situation where you felt unwelcome or out of place and just wanted to leave? That was where the people did not resonate with you, and you discerned that.
If you run a business, trust your discernment when you make business deals. If you are a customer and you want to deal with a business, trust your discernment before parting with your money. There will always be another business offering you the same product or service, where the people and the business values resonate with you.
Being discerning does not mean being judgmental. It simply means that you are much more aware of what is good, healthy and acceptable for you, and you respect the choices that other people make, even if those choices are the complete opposite of what you chose.
So yes, doing business is an exchange of energy, and it needs to be a fair exchange. If the exchange is not fair, you will know it, and you will do yourself a favor when you walk away.
I wanted to write this article about November 11 for two reasons – one heavenly and one earthly, but both reasons have a Divine connection. I have waited for the day to pass, because I did not want to rain on anyone’s parade, and the article reflects my personal opinions
I will start with the hype around 11am on November 11th, which apparently was the time of ascension, and the time of magical manifestation for those that were ready to receive. Of course the implication is that if nothing magical manifested for you, you were not ready to receive, and therefore you are somehow guilty of something.
I have not ascended (probably my karma because I had already planned to write this article) but I have also not heard of anyone else who had ascended over the weekend.
I did experience magical manifestation in several forms over the weekend, but I want to put that into perspective.
I have been working very hard, and for long hours for years, to get where I am in terms of my spiritual work. It has been a long and often lonely journey, but I kept my faith, and I am now in a space where things are materializing. I believe it has all to do with timing (ensuring that everyone and everything are in the best positions) and with a window of opportunity that I am strongly aware of.
Here is the crux: I am aware of the window of opportunity, and I know it will last for about seven months, of which two months have already passed. This is my personal window of opportunity, and yours may coincide with it – or it may come later or be longer or shorter. The point is that it is here for me, and I am aware of it.
What do I do about it? I have options. I can say there are still five months left, and I am doing well, and I can slow down. I can work even harder and be even more focused, and achieve even more – knowing this option will mean more work, less social time, being more productive, and meeting my specific targets. I chose this last option, because I have been in this space before, and I have learnt. Another option would have been to say I am tired, and to get despondent because nothing is happening, and to ignore the window of opportunity – but this is not in my nature and it is not my truth.
What will happen if I miss or ignore this window of opportunity? I can still achieve my targets, and my plans will still materialize, but it will be like swimming with an elephant tied to each foot. It will require extremely hard work, and the energy-draining emotions will multiply ten-fold. No thanks – I would rather work myself to pieces now and see the fruit of my labor later.
Another advantage of fitting everything I can into this window of opportunity is that it is like swimming with fins on – I go faster than ever, and things fall into place like domino blocks.
What has this got to do with 11am on November 11th? Everything and nothing. What and how much will materialize if you did not put everything into the creation process? Nothing. No date and no time will create miracles if you have not done the groundwork. That is why you are on this earth – to practice your creation skills, and not to stand around waiting to receive from others.
The other question is: where in the world did I have to be so that I could benefit from this “only once in 10 years” magical moment? We have time zones, and clocks can be wrong. And I have never noticed that the sun, the planets revolving around the sun, the moon or the entire solar system – or another solar system for that matter – freezes until everyone from Greenland to Australia and everywhere in-between have caught up with numerological predictions.
With the window of opportunity that I referred to, that is another story. The planets don’t stop. They simply continue on their ancient paths, regardless of what I do. These planets will align, and remain in that alignment for a while in earthly time, while they move along slowly but surely. It is up to me to do that I need to do while the alignment is in my favor.
And I am definitely not against numerology. One of the best books I have read in my life is The Beginner’s Guide to Constructing the Universe by Michael S. Schneider. The book explains the meaning of every number on three different levels, but the book does not link the ancient science of understanding numbers in any way to earthly time. W.E.B. Du Bois said “When you have mastered numbers, you will in fact no longer be reading numbers, any more than you read words when reading books. You will be reading meanings.” There is a lot to numerology, as long as you don’t try and tie numbers to time and to Divine timing.
If you look at the advice that has been touted about preparing for and experiencing 11am on November 11th, all of it is good, and all of it needs to be applied – but apply it every single day of your life, not just on a specific day at a specific hour. God is not your baby-sitter, and God entrusted you with the ability to create. Out of 8 400 000 species on this earth, humans are the only ones who can create. What are you doing about it?
The second aspect to 11am on November 11th is the insistence that everyone must stop, buy a poppy, pray and in other ways show respect to dead soldiers from the two world wars. I get into trouble about this every year, but I will repeat this again. I have never expected or asked anyone to go to war and kill people on my behalf, and I would rather die than do that. I don’t regard anyone going to war as making a sacrifice for anyone. Either it is a conscious career choice, or people in positions of power abuse their power and send their subordinates to death. What is there to celebrate about that? I believe in the Law of Attraction: What you think about and thank about, you bring about. I would happily join a peace rally, but I will not give credit to two horrific wars in any way. Call me hard-hearted or disrespectful, and when you are done, decide for yourself how you feel about war and what message you send into the world. I will take responsibility for myself.
And while I am on the topic: What really irks me are these videos of children being reunited with their mothers after the mothers abandoned them for months at a time to go off and do military service. Children, like dogs, are not just for Christmas. A mother is entrusted with a child to raise, and that child needs to take preference over joining the army. I have no issue with working mothers, but I do have an issue with mothers clearly neglecting their children and being applauded for doing so purely because the mothers chose to wear a uniform. If anyone out of a uniform abandoned their children so that they can go and kill people or support the killing of people, they will go to prison or the children will be taken away from them. And did any of these kids give their permission to be paraded around the world in videos where they are used as marketing props for “sacrificing” parents? Why should the kids sacrifice and who gives them any options?
I will stop here.
Namaste and peace to you.
What are you going to create today? Remember, the creation process takes place in your mind before anything else.