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Children are entitled to live their own lives.  Parents should not deny their children the freedom to become adults

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Monday, 04 May 2015 11:27

How Do I Escape From My Mother?

Question:

My mother won’t let go of me and it is driving me crazy.

I am 21 years old and was not even allowed to arrange a birthday party for myself – not that it would have been a big party, because I only have one friend.  My younger brother has already left home to study, but my mother refused me that opportunity.  Instead she expects me to stay home and do all the cooking and cleaning.  My mom seems to be afraid of so many things and wants me to take care of her all the time.

I recently got a job, and my mother makes a scene every time I leave for work, but I refuse to give up the job.  At the same time she expects me to use my money to pay the household bills, even though she has her own well-paid job. 

I have decided to leave home and move into a small flat.  I don’t know how to tell my mother this without having a confrontation, because I don’t know how she will treat my younger sister when I leave home.  I love my mother, but Iwant to have my own life and make my own rules.  I want to go out with friends and study and travel.  

How do I get away from all this?

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A long distance relationship requires a lot of trust, honesty and emotional maturity.

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Saturday, 31 January 2015 16:58

My Long-Distance Relationship Is Failing

Question:

I met this incredible girl when I was in college, and I really care deeply about her.  It is a second relationship for both of us.  Her first relationship was long-distance.  He started cheating on her after a few months, and she had no idea about it.  She even went to visit him and as far as she was concerned they were very happy.  He then dumped her just after her birthday. 

I knew her at the time but our relationship only started a while after hers ended.  We were very happy initially, but then I finished my studies.  Because of finances I had to move back home, and this means I am only able to visit her every two months. I am now saving money so that we can move in together soon.  We do communicate regularly with IM, video and phone, but it is not the same.  I feel I am losing out because I cannot see her face or hear her voice, and that causes misunderstandings that turn out to be quite hurtful for both of us. 

She still has her studies and she works two jobs to earn some money.  She comes home late at night when her family is already asleep, and she has nobody to talk to.

I am very concerned that she is more and more depressed, and on top of that she is turning into a nasty piece of work - even her friends complain about her behavior.

 

I really want to help and support her as much as I can, but I feel like I am walking on eggs every time I speak to her.  In this way her stress is getting to me.  She is now playing this game where she is blaming me for not knowing what is wrong with her, and also not telling me anything – she shuts me out and I feel she is destroying all the closeness we had.

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Sunday, 25 January 2015 14:50

My Boyfriend is Crowding Me - Podcast

When your partner is insecure, they need to deal with it.  Don't allow them to use up your energy.

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Sunday, 25 January 2015 14:17

My Boyfriend is Crowding Me

Question:

My boyfriend is 23 and gets panic attacks during the night a few times a week.  He has been for medical tests but the doctors cannot find anything wrong.  He does not have much of an appetite.

He also asks so many questions – whenever I tell him something, he wants to know the smallest details.  Even when I do answer his questions, he just comes back with more and more.

 I feel like the longer we are together, the worse it gets.  I am not sure how much longer I can cope with this.  He has mentioned that he doesn’t want to lose me but I am starting to feel smothered. How do I deal with this?

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