Love from others start with self-love and is true when it is unconditional.

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Question:

I have a friend who is very spiritual.  We were talking about love and relationships and he said that if he is interested in someone or loves someone and if this person does not love him back, he does not love this person anymore either.  I am surprised about his point of view.  What do you think about this?

Answer:

I want to answer this question on different levels.

If we only love people

I am sure when I refer to the dark night of the soul many readers will sit up and say 'Ah . . . is that what it is called.  And I thought I was the only one in the entire world that has experienced it'.

What is the dark night of the soul?  I will explain that by means of an illustration.   Of course there are as many variations to the story as there are people in this world.  Once you have read the story, you can always re-write it by adding your life's detail.  And remember, this can happen at any age, and it can happen more than once to any person.

See yourself as an innocent little baby that has just come into this world.  You grow up trusting that everyone loves you and wants to take care of you.  You have a happy childhood with all the skinned knees, first love, sibling rivalry and so on.  You are truly an image of