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Saturday, 02 July 2016 13:04

I Am Not Bunking School

 

 

Question:

 

I am in senior school.  About a year ago I became very ill and started vomiting.  It was really bad at the time, and I had to see a number of doctors before it got better.

 

I still have to take medicine daily, and I still vomit three or four times a week for no reason.  This is much better than it was, but I am still far from well.  I feel nauseous and tired most of the time.

 

Because of this, last year I missed most of the school year.  This year is a bit better, but it is really difficult to concentrate at school when I feel like vomiting.  I have arranged with friends to help me stay on top of my schoolwork, and so far I am coping.

 

However, my parents don’t understand.  Whenever I feel I am unable to cope with going to school and that I should rather stay at home, we have an argument.  They want me to go to school every day, even when I feel I won’t be able to cope.  This is additional stress which none of us need.

 

I know I need to finish school and I am doing everything I can to do that, but my parents don’t see my side.

 

How can I explain to them that when I get up and feel too ill to go to school even if I want to, I am not bunking? 

 

 

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Saturday, 05 March 2016 13:04

Everyone Wants Too Much from Me

 

Question:

 

I am in a prestigious high school where my parents enrolled me in a program for highly gifted students.  This program is stressing me out completely, because I have no social life and get about four hours per night sleep. 

 

I go home and cry every day because it is just too much for me.  I don’t even go out over weekends, because I have to study.

 

My parents are divorced.   My dad wants me to qualify for an elite American school but my mom wants me to get into a Japanese school. They cannot even agree over custody of me and I am being pulled in so many directions. 

 

What can I do to deal with the stress?

 

 

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Monday, 04 May 2015 11:27

How Do I Escape From My Mother?

Question:

My mother won’t let go of me and it is driving me crazy.

I am 21 years old and was not even allowed to arrange a birthday party for myself – not that it would have been a big party, because I only have one friend.  My younger brother has already left home to study, but my mother refused me that opportunity.  Instead she expects me to stay home and do all the cooking and cleaning.  My mom seems to be afraid of so many things and wants me to take care of her all the time.

I recently got a job, and my mother makes a scene every time I leave for work, but I refuse to give up the job.  At the same time she expects me to use my money to pay the household bills, even though she has her own well-paid job. 

I have decided to leave home and move into a small flat.  I don’t know how to tell my mother this without having a confrontation, because I don’t know how she will treat my younger sister when I leave home.  I love my mother, but Iwant to have my own life and make my own rules.  I want to go out with friends and study and travel.  

How do I get away from all this?

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Saturday, 25 October 2014 12:40

Why Can't My Parents Let Go? Podcast

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Tuesday, 31 December 2013 07:13

Why Can't My Parents Let Go?

I am a 28-year-old university student and still living with my parents.  They still expect me to be home at a certain time.  I chose the university because my dad refused to support me financially if I moved into a dorm at a university of my choice.  My dad even wanted me to share a car pool with his friends, but I refused and am taking the bus because it gives me a little freedom even though it is inconvenient.

I have got a good job and with my studies I am hardly ever at home.  My parents are always complaining because

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