Every person is a gift. Don’t blame children for the legal safeguards of society.
I am always fascinated by the rules around succession to a throne and how monarchs exclude their children that were born of some women, but include the children that were born to them of other women. I get upset when children are described as 'illegitimate' – as if God made a mistake with that child.
And not too long ago – in the youth of our grandparents – children that were born to unmarried parents were as a rule given away for adoption. Some of those children never even found out that they were adopted, or finding this out was a very painful experience to them, because it reflected the 'shame' of their births.