Be aware of who you are, and that will help you in your relationship with others.

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Question:

I have had a number of mental, physical and spiritual changes recently.  I am grateful that all of them have heightened my spiritual awareness, and especially my awareness of my spiritual help (the angels that guide me). 

I have many negative people in my life.  It feels like the more I grow spiritually, the more people tell me I am not good enough or not up to standard (meaning their standards).

I know in my heart I am a good person, and I feel that even more after meditation.  How can I love myself more, and how can I love the negative people around me without letting them drag me down?

If a friend does not respect your boundaries, they are not a friend.

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Question:

I am 19 and have gone through a number of changes recently.  Within a year I graduated from high school, got my first home and got married. 

A few months ago my husband’s best friend moved in with us – only for a few weeks, but then the weeks turned into months.  Initially it worked out fine, but now things are getting totally out of hand.

We have a big TV in our house.  Recently this man decided to buy a projector, put it in the middle of the lounge floor, and put up a white sheet in the middle of my house.  He did not ask for permission, and when I asked him to take the stuff out of the way, he just ignored me.

He also bought an additional TV so that he and my husband could play games together, each using their own TV.  I just got ignored in all of this, as if I don’t exist.

My husband works day shifts and his friend works nights.  This friend decides when the air conditioning should be switched on during the day, and he takes control of the TV all day because he does not like my choice of shows.

Before this man moved in with us, we coped financially, but now we often overspend because just the food he eats cost more than the minimal rent he pays.

Our bills for internet use, phone and electricity have gone up.  He claims that he cannot pay more rent, but he spends cash on computer games, brand-new state-of-the-art TV sets and other gadgets that are taking over my house. 

I like to keep things neat and tidy, but it is impossible with this man making a mess all day and never cleaning up after himself.

My husband and I have started to argue about things that we in the past had no problems with. 

Is it wrong to feel the way I do?

Love from others start with self-love and is true when it is unconditional.

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Question:

I have a friend who is very spiritual.  We were talking about love and relationships and he said that if he is interested in someone or loves someone and if this person does not love him back, he does not love this person anymore either.  I am surprised about his point of view.  What do you think about this?

Answer:

I want to answer this question on different levels.

If we only love people

Don't wait for friends and family to appreciate you.  Love yourself and others will follow.

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I get very angry at myself when I let something bother me.  I have friends and family who consistently forget my birthday, even though they have asked me for it several times.  I know they care about me, but do they prove me wrong when they forget my birthday every year?  Maybe if I was more special to them, they would make an effort to remember.