Dis-ease and illness get our bodies off balance, and that impacts on our mental and emotional health.
My wife left me a while ago for someone else and our divorce will be finalized soon. I believed I had moved on, and have since met a lovely lady with whom I was very happy.
I have recently had hip surgery which temporarily put an end to my very active sports while I was on crutches.
After the surgery I broke up with my girlfriend for no reason, and tried to get my wife back (even though I knew she was already involved with another man).
Needless to say, I have since come to my senses and have my lovely girlfriend back with me. Of course the divorce is going through, so that my wife and I can both move on. I am also fully mobile again.
I am trying to understand why I caused such upheaval in my life with my actions. Did the surgery cause some state of depression that made me lose my judgment?
I want to leave my marriage and my children for the sake of my own sanity.
I have never been maternal, and I feel that if I stay in a marriage that is smothering me with obligations and expectations, I will go mad.
I have thought about this for a long time and done much soul-searching, and this is the right decision for me and them.
How do I get my husband to allow me access to the children when I leave him?
Don't judge the actions of others that you don't understand. Rather observe, learn and decide what you want to apply in your life. You may want to change your mind later based on your own experience.
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I am in my late teens. A year ago I was at the airport with my mum, having just arrived from a long flight into this country. My dad was not with us, because he could not get a visa.
At the airport I used my mum’s phone to send a text, when a text came in for her. I opened her text and saw it was all about love, but not from my dad – from her college professor! I did not say anything but I was shocked. I thought that that was the end of it because he was still in our home country where my dad also was.
A few days later I heard her speak to him over the phone and realized he had also moved and was living close to me and my mum. I heard them arrange to meet, but she never said anything about it.
I know they are meeting regularly, and I know my dad knows nothing about this. Even if my dad does know, he cannot do anything because he still does not have a visa.
What shocks me most is that want my mum does is against our culture and religion, but it seems like she does not care.
I don’t know what to do about this.