If a friend does not respect your boundaries, they are not a friend.
I am 19 and have gone through a number of changes recently. Within a year I graduated from high school, got my first home and got married.
A few months ago my husband’s best friend moved in with us – only for a few weeks, but then the weeks turned into months. Initially it worked out fine, but now things are getting totally out of hand.
We have a big TV in our house. Recently this man decided to buy a projector, put it in the middle of the lounge floor, and put up a white sheet in the middle of my house. He did not ask for permission, and when I asked him to take the stuff out of the way, he just ignored me.
He also bought an additional TV so that he and my husband could play games together, each using their own TV. I just got ignored in all of this, as if I don’t exist.
My husband works day shifts and his friend works nights. This friend decides when the air conditioning should be switched on during the day, and he takes control of the TV all day because he does not like my choice of shows.
Before this man moved in with us, we coped financially, but now we often overspend because just the food he eats cost more than the minimal rent he pays.
Our bills for internet use, phone and electricity have gone up. He claims that he cannot pay more rent, but he spends cash on computer games, brand-new state-of-the-art TV sets and other gadgets that are taking over my house.
I like to keep things neat and tidy, but it is impossible with this man making a mess all day and never cleaning up after himself.
My husband and I have started to argue about things that we in the past had no problems with.
Is it wrong to feel the way I do?
I had a short and - for me – very happy relationship with a woman. She ended it a few months ago.
I was hoping that we could continue as friends, but that was not to happen. I am really struggling to put her and the relationship behind.
I have been using visualization and having a more positive outlook on life and it has made a difference, but not enough.
How do I put this relationship behind me?
I would like to get married one day and be happy. I am not in a relationship at the moment.
I have recently noticed many people around me who are all having affairs. I am concerned that when I ever get married, my wife or I will have an affair, and that will break my heart.
I expect my wife to be faithful to me, and I will definitely be faithful to her. Am I unreasonable?