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I am the only financially independent person in my family. When I was younger I had a learning disability but I have outgrown it. I grew up with people telling me I am slow, not smart enough and good for nothing. Today I am studying for a degree in psychology. I have my own home, a car, and I take care of my little son.
I work three days a week. I have no choice other than to use my brother for child care, because I don’t earn enough to be able to afford child care. My brother has been in and out of prison for years. My son is a little slow on remembering colors and numbers. My brother keeps telling me that I should give up work to take care of my son, but he has never bothered to take care of his own children. My son asked me the other day why he is stupid. He never heard that from me, and it could only have come from my brother.
I once published some poetry with money I saved, and all my family could do was to criticize me. They also have a lot to say about my weight (I am very slender by nature) and the way I speak. Whenever I do something positive, they tell me it won’t last.
When I get income tax money back, I help them but they ignore that and never have anything good to say about me. They all have a history of prison and drugs and neglecting their children. I have never done any of that. I hate these people and don’t know how I can get away from my family. What can I do to escape them?
If a friend does not respect your boundaries, they are not a friend.
I am 19 and have gone through a number of changes recently. Within a year I graduated from high school, got my first home and got married.
A few months ago my husband’s best friend moved in with us – only for a few weeks, but then the weeks turned into months. Initially it worked out fine, but now things are getting totally out of hand.
We have a big TV in our house. Recently this man decided to buy a projector, put it in the middle of the lounge floor, and put up a white sheet in the middle of my house. He did not ask for permission, and when I asked him to take the stuff out of the way, he just ignored me.
He also bought an additional TV so that he and my husband could play games together, each using their own TV. I just got ignored in all of this, as if I don’t exist.
My husband works day shifts and his friend works nights. This friend decides when the air conditioning should be switched on during the day, and he takes control of the TV all day because he does not like my choice of shows.
Before this man moved in with us, we coped financially, but now we often overspend because just the food he eats cost more than the minimal rent he pays.
Our bills for internet use, phone and electricity have gone up. He claims that he cannot pay more rent, but he spends cash on computer games, brand-new state-of-the-art TV sets and other gadgets that are taking over my house.
I like to keep things neat and tidy, but it is impossible with this man making a mess all day and never cleaning up after himself.
My husband and I have started to argue about things that we in the past had no problems with.
Is it wrong to feel the way I do?
How you use your own sexuality is your choice. How you use the sexuality of others is abuse.
My relationship has been going nowhere for the past few months.
My partner and I have been going through rough times for various reasons, but we are not really talking to each other.
Should I stay or go?