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We cannot change the choices our parents make.  We can only love them for what they teach us.

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Sunday, 21 June 2015 11:23

How Do I Break Away From My Parents?

Question:

I have recently turned 20 and moved out of my parents’ home because I could not stand staying there any longer.

My parents are always fighting about money, but I can see how they cause their own money troubles.  My dad has been unemployed for a long time and he smokes weed to relieve his stress.  He can come up with the craziest things, and then gets frustrated and embarrassed, which makes it very difficult to speak to him. 

My mom has a job that she hates, and she drinks two bottles of wine every night to deal with her stress.  I work as a waiter and I have seen people sharing a bottle of wine and having a good time.  I can see my mother does not have a good time – she drinks because she does not want to face her problems.  When I try to talk to her, she says it is her money and she will do as she pleases.

My sisters dose themselves with prescription drugs and drink and smoke weed.  I think they have also already tried crystal meth.  I have tried to talk to them but they say if our parents can do it, why can’t they?

I don’t want you to think I am judging them.  I have experimented with drugs and weed, but one day I had an experience where I felt God was reaching out to me and I just knew this was not what I wanted in my life.  Now I will only take medication if the doctor prescribed it and there is no other way.

Even though I no longer live at home, I am really stressed about my family.  Despite everything I love them and I know I can’t change them, but I want the best for them.

Can you help me?

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Saturday, 21 March 2015 17:21

I Only Have Two Hands! - Podcast

When you feel overwhelmed, do only what will keep you out of trouble.

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Saturday, 21 March 2015 15:54

I Only Have Two Hands!

Question:

I am a young mother of a baby under two years.  I have a full-time job as well. 

At home I have to prepare supper, and breakfast and lunch every evening for the next day.  I also have to prepare my baby’s food.  I have all the washing and cleaning to do as well. 

At work I am overloaded because a colleague went on medical leave and I have to do her job as well as my own.

My husband expects a clean house but does not help me, even with the baby.  I have talked to him about giving up my job, but he does not want me to.  He just says I am not the first woman who is going through this phase and I must cope.

In the past few weeks I have had the most unbearable backache, and I am falling behind with everything.  What can I do to get back on top of things again?

 

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Some people thrive on stressing about everything.  Rather than reassure them, tell them you respect their choice to stress but there are other choices available.

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Published in Love and Relationships
Sunday, 15 February 2015 15:10

How Do I Manage My Girlfriend's Stress?

Question:

My girlfriend stresses all the time about her finances and her grades at university.  She is very intelligent – and this shows in the grades she gets.  She is also good with money and as a result financially secure with her income.

However, no matter what I do, she disagrees.  I have quoted her grades to her, and I have worked out her budget to prove her financial situation to her, but all she said was that I am trying to prove her stupid.

How do I get her to stop stressing over nothing?

 

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Saturday, 10 January 2015 16:52

I Am Losing My Boyfriend to Work Stress

Question:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly two years now.  Our relationship was the best ever because we can talk about anything – even the stuff we have different views on.  He loves to surprise me with little gifts and I always feel better after telling him when something bothers me. 

About three months ago things changed for him at work, and I can see he is really stressed out.  He does not talk to me about work, and he has gained weight.  We don’t have sex anymore because he does not feel comfortable being with me while he is so stressed.  He has also developed a temper and I can see that this bothers him as well.

He assures me he is still totally committed to me, but I feel I am losing him.  What can I do to help him?

 

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