My mother won’t let go of me and it is driving me crazy.
I am 21 years old and was not even allowed to arrange a birthday party for myself – not that it would have been a big party, because I only have one friend. My younger brother has already left home to study, but my mother refused me that opportunity. Instead she expects me to stay home and do all the cooking and cleaning. My mom seems to be afraid of so many things and wants me to take care of her all the time.
I recently got a job, and my mother makes a scene every time I leave for work, but I refuse to give up the job. At the same time she expects me to use my money to pay the household bills, even though she has her own well-paid job.
I have decided to leave home and move into a small flat. I don’t know how to tell my mother this without having a confrontation, because I don’t know how she will treat my younger sister when I leave home. I love my mother, but Iwant to have my own life and make my own rules. I want to go out with friends and study and travel.
How do I get away from all this?
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My girlfriend stresses all the time about her finances and her grades at university. She is very intelligent – and this shows in the grades she gets. She is also good with money and as a result financially secure with her income.
However, no matter what I do, she disagrees. I have quoted her grades to her, and I have worked out her budget to prove her financial situation to her, but all she said was that I am trying to prove her stupid.
How do I get her to stop stressing over nothing?
My boyfriend is 23 and gets panic attacks during the night a few times a week. He has been for medical tests but the doctors cannot find anything wrong. He does not have much of an appetite.
He also asks so many questions – whenever I tell him something, he wants to know the smallest details. Even when I do answer his questions, he just comes back with more and more.
I feel like the longer we are together, the worse it gets. I am not sure how much longer I can cope with this. He has mentioned that he doesn’t want to lose me but I am starting to feel smothered. How do I deal with this?