Hating another person is not a solution to anything. Finding a more practical means of resolving a problem is much more useful.
Bullies focus on people who do not acknowledge their own value.
My husband and I have a young daughter that I have been home-schooling for the past two years, with no success because she hates it.
She has been in about twenty schools already, and each time I took her out of the school because she was being abused and bullied. She sings beautifully but has never had a chance to prove herself, and I cannot send her to dance classes because of the expense.
My husband works long hours just to keep us all going and we cannot afford a tutor. I have no transport and spend most of my time at home with my daughter. Often my husband just comes home to change clothes before he goes out again, and we hardly ever talk. When he does have time to talk to me, he just tells me what I do wrong.
I am very concerned that I am becoming more and more miserable and that I am letting my daughter down. How can I change the situation?
I love my mother but I feel she does not love me. She has always expected me to agree with her and do as I get told, or else she would physically attack me.
I now spend most of my time at boarding school where I have to work very hard to keep up. I come home feeling exhausted and just want to relax and catch a breath. However, everything ends up in a fight with my mother – and I mean a physical fight where I have to defend myself and watch out so that I don’t hurt her.
For example, today I accidentally stepped on her foot – I did not see her standing right behind me. I apologized, but she started screaming at me and grabbed my hair, and then started hitting me. I first started screaming as well, but I then started laughing to try and defuse the situation and also to restrain myself.
I have noticed that whenever I go home for a weekend, my hands start to shake. How can I deal with my mother without fighting and hating her?