I read these paragraphs describing a relationship in The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran:
“Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
I found it fascinating that in numerous psychic readings I have channelled similar guidance to clients. The image I am shown quite often is one of two high stones standing apart but joined together with a lintel at the top – like the stones at Stonehenge. I am clearly shown where the issues in the relationship are – for example there are two pillars but no lintel. This means the two people in the relationship have grown so far apart that nothing binds them together any longer. Is that a relationship, or does this sound like two independent individuals continuing to share the same space, even though the relationship is long gone?
Another image that shows me the relationship is in trouble is when there are two stones and a lintel joins them, but one stone is much shorter than the other. This tells me that either the taller stone is driving the shorter stone into the earth (where one partner is dominant at the expense of the other partner) or the taller stone is carrying all the weight and responsibility, whereas the shorter stone is not interested in taking responsibility for their share of the relationship. Either way, where is the partnership in the relationship?
These images are not related to only heterosexual relationships. They are also given to me when a gay relationship is in trouble, or when a work relationship is falling apart.
Are you pulling your weight (physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually) in your relationship?